How to Talk About What You are Experiencing

What You Should Know About Loneliness

Talking about feelings isn’t always easy, and for some of us, it feels impossible. We may believe that opening up makes us look weak, or that others will reject us. Negative experiences in our childhood or past relationships could also make us feel that sharing our true feelings is something to be avoided at all costs. But it doesn’t have to be that way forever. Learning to talk freely about what you’re experiencing helps you live more authentically, be your own advocate and get any help you may need.

At Foundations Family Counseling, we aspire to encourage every client to find confidence and power in their unique voices. Even though speaking the truth can be difficult, we believe it is the gateway toward greater intimacy, happiness and fulfillment. Read on to discover five ways you can start learning to speak more openly about your mental health, feelings and needs.

Learn to Recognize Your Own Emotions

Sometimes we say something but really mean another entirely. It can be difficult putting intense feelings into words, and sometimes, there just isn’t a vocabulary strong enough to convey what we’re going through. The first step toward speaking more openly is to improve your own ability to understand yourself.

When you feel stressed or depressed, instead of immediately defaulting to feeling helpless, ask yourself what happened. What specific events lead you to feel this way? How is the way you feel now serving you? Even negative emotions like anger can have hidden purposes, like protecting us from further emotional pain.

Avoid Social Media Dumps

Social media can fuel anxiety and depression, and the lack of physical response may cause you to reveal personal things you regret sharing later. One of the best things you can do when you’re feeling overwhelmed is to turn off your phone and grab a journal instead. Write down everything you need to say, and figure out whether you want to pass that along to a trusted confidant later.

Address Your Fears

You may have a fear of intimacy that stop you from talking about your experiences. You may believe others will find you stupid, weak or pathetic for feeling a certain way, so you avoid sharing anything. This only leads you to feel lonelier in the long run. Figuring out what you have a hard time opening up is the first step toward more honest, rewarding communication. Therapy is a good place to unpack these fears in a safe space with a counselor you can trust.

Start With “I Feel”

Instead of trying to justify your emotions to others, it’s best to be straightforward and honest. Use an I-statement to take ownership of your current mood, and follow it up with a reason. This practice can be done alone to help you build greater self-awareness too. For example, you may say, “I feel insecure because my colleague got that promotion” or “I feel angry because my partner didn’t do what I asked them to.”

You don’t have to judge the reasons behind your feelings yet. The first step toward understanding and expressing emotions in a healthy way is accepting them as they arise.

Finding Emotional Freedom Through Therapy

Everyone struggles sometimes, and that’s why we’re here. No matter what you’re going through or what you’ve survived, Foundations Family Counseling offers therapy throughout Denver, CO, to individuals, families and couples.

If you would like to learn more or schedule a session with one of our counselors, please contact us today.